The first person you need to convince that you provide a five star product, service or performance is you.
If the product you sell or the service you provide is second rate then get rid of it, replace it or improve on it until it is worthy of a five star rating. Trying to build a five star rating for something even you don’t believe in is a fools errand. It will twist you up inside and only bring you disappointment.
A lot of people don’t realize just how important it is to have confidence before you ever begin to work on any important project. You need to begin with the end in mind. If you doubt yourself, your decisions will be poor, your timing will be off and your ability to step up to the task severely impaired. If you don’t believe in yourself and you lack the confidence that you need to get up after a setback, then it is likely that you are going to give up before you even make significant progress. Setbacks happen early and often in any worthwhile endeavor. You need to be prepared for that.
The way you deal with challenges and how quickly you move forward is what determines how far you can go.
The first thing that you can do for yourself to begin gaining more confidence is to start thinking kinder thoughts. There is a common belief, that we are each, our own worst critic, and most of the time that is very true. When you find yourself overwhelmed by the perception you have of yourself as being not good enough or failure, then you have already sabotaged yourself before you begin working on anything.
In many cases building a five star reputation needs to begin with building a five star self-image.
Take some time to think about who you want to become. Imagine what it would be like to be, do and have all of the things that go along with being that person. Now simply decide to become that person. It really is as simple as that.
So now the journey begins. Begin where you stand with what you have at hand and start building the new you.
Start by keeping track of the negative things that come to mind about the old you. Keep in mind from this day forward that’s the old you we are talking about.
I was chatting with a young fellow today, a high school student, and I couldn’t help but laugh even though it’s a little sad. He told me he had hit himself in the head with a sledge hammer twice, by mistake. Once at home working with his Dad and once while out with friends. He went on to tell me he was always getting hurt. Hart break and pain were his lot in life. And this is a true story. I’m not making this up. This young fellow needs to change his thinking and you do to if you keep hitting yourself in the head with a hammer.
He didn’t care what he was saying about himself. You need to care if you want to outgrow the skin you are in.
Listen to yourself. Once you have a good idea of what things you don’t want to continue to hear, begin interrupting those negative thoughts with “but that was the old me” now it’s going to be different!. Think about all of the great things that you are capable of doing and the things that you have accomplished rather than dwelling on the negative events of the past. Forgive yourself your indiscretions and know you are moving on.
You can overcome the negativity. All you have to do is work hard to catch yourself when you’re having negative thoughts about yourself or your process or your progress and force yourself to think of the person you are becoming. You may not be there yet but you are moving in the right direction.
Gaining confidence can be a lot harder if you are around negative people who love to criticize everyone. What they are doing is building themselves up by beating others down. Don’t be like them. Try doing everything that you can to surround yourself with positive people who believe that you can do anything that you set your mind to.
Toxic people will try to bring you down and doubt yourself, but there is no law saying that you have to believe them or hang out with them.
Instead of spending time with people who drain your energy, get out and get charged up by people who love and laugh and compliment and encourage others.